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CincinnatiBorn81

I was born at Christ Hospital in Cincinnati Ohio at around 5:54pm to a woman who already had a daughter that was around 5 or 6 at the time of my birth. From what I know the adoption was halted on the day my parents were to come to the hospital & pick me up due to my birth mother changing her mind. I went home but supposedly stayed with different relatives until 6weeks old when she ultimately decided she should’ve probably thought through the decision to "keep a child solely based on the older daughters temper tantrum" my older sister had not been told that I was being put up for adoption & not coming home with my biological mother but with another nice loving family that desperately needed help with having a baby of their own or something similar to help her understand the situation & talk with her over the pregnancy to get her settled into the idea of it. Not at all blaming anyone but definitely should’ve been handled quite differently. 6 weeks old & I’m given to the attorney who was in charge of the adoption & he called my parents letting them know that "Melissa was sitting in his lap"‚ to which my mother responded oh no no we have decided to name the new baby something else because "Melissa" will always be special in our hearts as "Melissa". The attorney then replies "No no I’m honestly holding "Melissa" right now & was asked to please see if you were still interested". My mother was overjoyed & full of disbelief as they had spent all that time mourning my "loss". She practically screamed out "Of course! Yes! We ABSOLUTELY 💯 will accept our sweet baby girl "Melissa"! I’ve obviously changed the name as it says to not give real information until matched or comfortable with contact. I also know that the biological father was in a relationship at the time with someone other than my biological mother. I know that my biological mother from what we’ve heard had another baby after me that she kept. I did want to point out that NOTHING I’ve said is in a way that would ever mean I think horribly of any party & actually quite the opposite. I think it must’ve been the hardest thing to have realized that all of a sudden you have to explain to a 5/6yr old little girl that her baby sister will not be coming home bc you couldn’t find the way or the right moment to do it. That took a huge amount of courage to then decide ok this really as I initially thought was not the best for "Melissa" & I must reach out to see if that family I originally picked might still be willing to have her as their daughter. The attorney is now deceased & his office was not taken over by anyone else. Ohio is the most difficult for closed adoptions as well. I’m now living life as a chronically ill person with zero medical information which is truly a huge mountain to try & traverse essentially blind. All help is greatly appreciated.