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I am trying to help my cousin find his younger brother that was adopted out in the 80s • Birth mother: kimberly lynn daniels • Birth father: unknown • Maternal grandparents: Clayton (Sonny) & Carmeletta (Etta) Daniels • Male • Born mid-late 80s • private adoption • Ocala/Clearwater Florida This would be my first cousin. He would’ve been born in the mid-late 80s in ocala Florida or near there anyway. But he would’ve resided in Clearwater and likely still does. His birth mother was doing time in a prison in ocala at the time of his birth. So he may have been born in the prison or a hospital closest to it? She was around 19-23 when she had him. Her name was Kimberly Lynn Daniels (my aunt) her birthdate is 12/17/1966. My grandmother (Carmeletta “etta” Daniels) is the one who set the adoption up. I believe it was a private adoption and not even set up through an agency. She had a friend (Eike Farmer) at the time who was a florist in Clearwater and Eike had friends who were looking to adopt. They couldn’t have children of their own‚ the adoptive father was either paraplegic or quadriplegic‚ according to my grandmother. My grandmother was able to send birthday cards to him up until he was about 12yrs old and then they started being returned to sender. We’ve tried years to find him. I was able to locate eike via Facebook two years ago and she recalled the adoption. She said she would contact the adoptive mother and see if she would be willing to speak with us or even see if her son would want to meet. The adoptive mother (according to Eike) wasn’t interested. So I am not even sure if her son ever knew we were searching for him. ****I have more information: I was told that after my aunt got out of prison she wanted to meet him and may have scared the family away as well as Eike. What they may not understand is that my aunt had the mentality of a 14 year old‚ she wasn’t special needs‚ but she was on the slower side. She suffered from some brain damage at 3yrs old due to a dog attack that ended up causing her seizures‚ which lead to the brain damage. She passed away in 2020 due to early onset dementia. She was an amazing woman and our family still suffers without her. We wish so much we could at least share who she was with her birth son one day. Due to her mentality my grandparents raised her oldest son. When she got pregnant with her 2nd son and went to prison my grandparents could not take care of another child‚ from my understanding. We also aren’t sure of the birth father‚ we know he may have been Puerto Rican‚ but it wasnt a longterm relationship for them‚ maybe not even a relationship at all. We aren’t even sure if the birth father knows he has a child. Our dilemma with the search is that my grandparents have aged and their memory isnt good. Theyre in their late 70s now. My grandmother has searched tirelessly for the address that she used to send birthday cards to and their names. Unfortunately‚ she hasn’t been able to find them. She had them written down in an address book. My grandmother guilts herself endlessly for not taking on the responsibility and she feels responsible for the adoption itself. She would love anything more than to even see his face‚ know about him‚ meet him‚ etc. As my grandparents health has declined in the last year or so‚ we know their time here is short. We aren’t looking for anything more that to know who he is and hope to get the chance to meet him one day. He has 3 nieces from his brother. He has an aunt and an uncle still in great health. And an abundance of cousins who would love to meet him as well. I do have to mention our family is originally from West Virginia. They moved to Florida in the 80’s and back to West Virginia in the early 90’s and have been here in West Virginia since. There is some family still in Florida and we do still visit the area. I do know my grandparents had seen him when he was about 2yrs old in passing in Clearwater. But that was the last actual contact anyone has had with them other than Eike. I’ve even went as far as background checks‚ I’ve searched through eikes friends on fb. I’ve went through adoption registries‚ forums online for people seeking birth families. The only thing we haven’t done is the DNA searches. I will also mention his brother is a half sibling. Kim had him in West Virginia‚ she was only 17. His brother did not know anything about his younger brother until he was a teenager and found an ultrasound with Kim’s name on it and the dates didn’t match up. He doesnt remember the exact dates on the ultrasound‚ but knows it was mid-late 80s. My grandmother also believes he was born around June‚ but her memory is so bad she cant really clarify that. Please do not reach out to Eike‚ I do not want to scare her away. She did try and thats all I can ask of her‚ she did not want to share any other information other than he was doing well and that the family was still around the Clearwater area‚ out of respect of the adoptive mother. I appreciate that she did reach out to the adoptive mother‚ but i fear the adoptive mother may not have passed any information on to her son. Any help at all would be appreciated.